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Maybe it's just in my head, but on the off chance it works for anyone else: I have used my $16 Amazon plant/grow lights as light therapy for years. Just laying beneath them or doing yoga under them. Again maybe I'm just tricking myself, but it's been a great hack for me. Hope it helps, homies. 🖖

Is it a personality disorder if you don’t want to be in a relationship and want to be alone in an old age?

The worst thing I did in my life was to go back to family. Trauma bonding is a real thing 😢

There’s no Love I just want the right to be alone

I love you Sam you have opened my eyes- father- malignant narcissist- husband covert narcissist- 19 years with my father 17 years so far with my husband I am not I don’t exist I have no personality and don’t know if I am …

Sharing space with someone has become a gamble, because of them not having the ability to trust, and share. It’s hard for many to formulate true friendships.

There is a lot to think about regarding the justification of behaviour.

Social media is the perfect solution for them.

Testosterone îs low in majority of men today here îs the problem

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damn that's good

Thanks 🙏

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Negative message. Its better to tell them to fuck off and move on.

My dad stole my identity. I’m going to save up some money and find a way to get out of this situation.

I only know when I hurt people when they tell me and it's rare that they have the courage. I hate it, I hate life and I hate myself for it. It makes life that much more difficult after what I've already been through. I'm just waiting to die basically. I would NEVER intentionally hurt someone but the anger seeps into every aspect of life and the therapists I have been to are less than helpful, they are just expensive. So all I can do to prevent it is to isolate.

narcisstic victimhood in a nutshell

when i was discarded he was in a chaos filled rant and just kept repeating over and over that he could never be good enough that he was such a loser and that i would always want more than he could give. i had always told him i never wanted anything from him but his love and trust and honesty. I didnt need anything material from him as i am self sufficient. i even offered many times to help him financially and he refused (now i realize this probably hurt his self idea even more to have me offer to help) he never ever believed me and always said why would someone like you want me. It was a never ending loop of his self-hatred. In the end i said "why can't you allow yourself the joy of friendship and love?". everything fell on deaf ears.

1. ✔️closed family, 2. ✔️ appearance > substance 3. ✔️ splitting, either or 4. ✔️ us against them 5. ✔️ roles, competitive pitting against another from a young age 6. ✔️ superficial communication 7. ✔️ ignored, mocked, backdooring 8. ✔️ inappropriate dynamics 9. ✔️ cannot be content, 10. ✔️ reframing 11. ✔️ adultifying 12. 13. ✔️ I've left my family alone but they haven't left me alone. They've gone on to tearing my closest relationships away from me but im still no contact and ill probanly be that way for the rest of my life unfortunately. i was never allowed to just be myself. I was never recognized for what i truly am. its always whatever narrative they choose. And it just got old explaining this kind of thing to them. they just got worse and worse when i ever talked about it or pulled away. But im doing a lot better now at 27 especially because i understand these things more. And it makes it easier to feel okay with being alone and building my life alone. Far far away from them. Thanks for your video.

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Dr Vaknin, I was going to go back to school to become a phycologist, but I have gone through traumas... should I not pursue this profession after all?

We are the salt of the earth, eternal children, the servants of humanity Merci

Can't integrate the shadow.

It takes more faith to believe in nothing, becasue there is a thought one may have - What if nothing is a lie, another made up construct of the mind.

A religious narcissist, of which there are many, are a hypocritical dichotomy.

The mentally ill are victims, but not if they do not seek help. The mentally ill can be abusive to others, such as the narc. It is difficult to have pity on a child in a adult's body when they are continually causing harm to others.

When you underline everything, you underline nothing

Thank you werry much sir sam .. Semper paratus Meier

There are so many Mr. Sam want-to-be, fake copy cat persons everywhere, for sure; DO NOT BE FOOLED. There is only one Mr. Sam, and we appreciate and have verified his credintials and his publications.....🎉 FOR SURE.....🇺🇲

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Brilliant

Sam your a straight shooter and this makes perfect sense after 40 years of me living in the desert, God has delivered...

I always choose not to choose an always rule

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in the gulag one can't take insinuations too seriously on counts of being led astray. "everything is fine, change my mind."

Emotional rescue. Quite lovely, Sam. With gratitude from me, a tall ordered shortcake. ❤️‍🩹

Can art save us ?

Actually they are. Intentionally.

Im willing to explain to others with social skills disability so they can understand somehow and build a compass to make some sense on how to act or why they failed in certain interaction.

Always so much to learn. Many thanks, professor!

I needed to hear this today. Well done, sir.

Professor, could you please make a video about toxic family systems, particularly about the "identified patient" in such families?

There are numerous species of human beings and some of them are neurotypical. These are the ones to avoid, they are sane, bad and dangerous and to be honest I'd rather meet someone like Lord Byron- mad, bad and dangerous to any current world leader- sane, evil and a threat to the existence of life on Earth.

Leo here Star Wars: The Corruption of the Dark Side

1. I will treat myself with dignity and demand respect from others. 2. I will establish and communicate clear boundaries to others. 3. I will not tolerate abuse or aggression. Unacceptable behavior will be addressed immediately and firmly. 4. I will be assertive and unambiguous with regard to my needs, wishes, and expectations. I will love myself and take care of myself, uncompromisingly. 5. I will continually endeavor to know and understand myself more fully. 6. I will abide by the golden rule and treat others as I would like them to treat me. 7. I will terminate relationships with anyone who breaches or ignores my clearly communicated boundaries with haste. Zero tolerance. No second chances.

'Defeat and failure are a permanent fixture of your life, they're never going away, you're made up of defeats and losses and failures in a way no other person is' I did it again professor Vaknin, I self-sabotaged again, I sabotaged another relationship. I see, take in on the chin, try again.

Towards the last 3rd of your video my emotions were welling up. What you say says so much about who I am . I sometimes try and ignore (pretend) I don't get panic attacks or whatever issue at the moment, but it's better to face oneself squarely. Then, give oneself grace, and move forward as best as one can. That takes courage. Then I stop myself. Don't want to veer into magical thinking ❤ Thank you, Professor Vaknin.

Thank god that does not resonate with me

The manifestation of meaninglessness = Mental illness.

Requiem to the broken dreams.